I want to encourage us to be especially thoughtful about our media and social media consumption at this time. Those of us who are news junkies may feel tempted to reload our trusted news sources often to see if something new has happened. (I count myself among that number.) Even so, it’s wise to remember that our constant news attention does not help anyone, and that the constancy of traumatic news can harm us
Those who are active on social media may choose to post about this, and/or amplify the voices of people we trust who are there, or publications we trust that are saying things we find wise or relevant. At the same time, those of us who are active on social media may find ourselves thrown to see someone we thought we knew posting or amplifying something we find hateful or hurtful. If you need to log off or click away, do.
Please take care of yourself. Think twice before viewing video footage that you will not be able to unsee. (This goes double for our teens who have never “watched” trauma like this online before.) In the words of Israeli psychologist Uri Schechter, “The videos and testimonies we are currently exposed to are greater than our souls can contain.” Refrain from doom-scrolling, or at least take breaks from it. Give yourself permission to grieve.
And if something happens in your life that is sweet, give yourself permission to enjoy it. We are not disloyal to our loved ones there if we allow ourselves to savor a cup of coffee, a sunrise, a child’s orchestra performance or sports game, or a moment of genuine rest on Shabbat. Enjoying what we can will help to strengthen us for the work of rebuilding that I hope and pray will lie ahead, when fragile peace is possible again.
I am here if you need to talk about this or anything else. Drop me an email and we’ll find a time to connect.
Blessings to all,